A personal transformation

Allyson’s project delighted us all … and her mother

I’m one of those people who finds marketing myself very difficult! I love ‘doing the work’ but publicising it is not easy. So, I thought I’d let one of the participants in the last ‘Transforming the Dementia Journey’ course tell you about her experience. I’m so grateful to Allyson for letting me share her story.

When I started this course I was nervous and anxious about the session. I expected to learn more about the illness and to gain the tools to have more patience with my mom.

To my surprise this workshop exceeded my expectations …

This was the best interactive workshop. My opinions and experiences mattered, as all our circumstances and experiences are unique. And yet we all gained so much insight as we could feed off one another.

Practical feedback and ‘homework’ were given, and I began to change my attitude and mindset; for example, lowering my voice when speaking to my mom changed our relationship. I did not need the patience – only the tools to change my attitude towards the illness, as the person is still the same with a few minor defects, like any other illness we are diagnosed with.

Being present in the moment and remembering that the person living with dementia is still the same person and needs to be treated that way, I found numerous ways to ensure that my mom still plays an active role in our lives and can still be of value to one and all. Changing my mindset made me a better and happier person.

There was laughter and tears, which is soothing for the soul. From week one I left the workshop a much better person. I got used to the idea that ‘it takes a village’ and got my family to assist more, as I need to take a break to rejuvenate myself. ‘Caring is sharing!’

The project given to us over the eight-week period made me remember the type of person my mom was and still is. After completion, when I gave Mom my project to browse through, she was so happy and impressed with the outcome. She keeps it on her bed and browses through it every day. And when someone visits her, she shows it to them and that starts a conversation of note.

Thank you, Alice. You have been such an inspiration and the tools you have given me have changed my life forever. May you stay blessed in all your endeavours.